Have you ever went back to ex with thinking that it would be different THIS time?
If you haven't, I'm sure that I have gone back to enough of my ex's for the both of us. (lol) Many people say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results. I have definitely been insane for love before or for what I thought was love at the time.
Even after moving on from a relationship, situationship or friendship for that matter, that didn't work out, I have been guilty of making the comparison once I moved on and found someone else. It can be something as simple as comparing their style or swag to something as complex as comparing the way that they treat and handle you. But a word of advise is to stop the comparisons period. Honestly, how would you feel if someone compared you to someone from their past? Also, at the end of the day, you have to acknowledge that your past didn't work for a reason. Even if you think that your past treated you better or did more for you, that relationship expired and ended for a reason. Maybe it was because you couldn't appreciate your past or love them the way that they needed to be loved, or maybe it just isn't what you needed at that/this time in your life.
Whatever the reason, stop living in your past! Count it as a lesson learned, shine your crown and keep it moving. It's just that simple.
Now, there is always an exception and in that exception, there are people who couldn't work out a relationship or a friendship at one point in time, but through individual growth, learning and establishment, they are able to build and come back together. If that be the case, let God orchestrate it and don't stop living in the process. Don't be at a standstill, waiting for them to comeback because what if they don't? What if it ended because God has better for you? Remember that God's definition and provision of 'the best' exceeds ours.
"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be. "– Unknown