"I'm a movement by myself But I'm a force when we're together Mami, I'm good all by myself But, baby, you, you make me better…" Make me better-Neyo Excuse my language but if this ain't the type of relationship that we have then I don't want it or you and I mean that. One of the many reasons that several of my past relationships never got any traction is because my ex's had zero motivation or true hustle. In particular with my ex-husband, He was a hard worker but not a builder and there's a difference. With him there was no 'take over the world' plan or a plan to build an empire. Not to sound too cliche, but a man with a plan and with a vision is a winner. My personal opinion on it, is that if you have no plan for your life, how can you have a plan for our life and our family? I'm nowhere near ready to date, but when I do venture out into the dating scene I am seriously going to need to see your 5 year plan on date #1. Now, I'm not expecting a PowerPoint presentation but you at minimum are going to have to tell me that you want to accomplish 'A', 'B' and 'C' and if that can't be done...so long my friend! I encourage all women to not just require that your significant other has vision and a plan but to have a plan of your own. If you don't know where you're going, you're likely to get distracted and crash!