What if a baby is a part of the package?


I haven't been in the dating game in a while and from what I see on Facebook, these days a child or two are normal to come along with male. Now, I am by no means saying that all males have babies, I'm not that naive. However it seems though kids are a norm these days.

When I was in the dating game I had strict rules about dating a man who was a father; 1)The kids had to be over 2 years old. (I felt like that would make sure that the fire was out between him and his baby mama.) 2) The child’s mother had to be an adult with the grown woman mindset. (Getting all of your tires put on flat because some female is jealous that you are with her child’s father is not a good look. Trust me!) 3) He had to financially and emotionally provide for his child/children. (If a male can reject something that comes from him, he'll do that and more to you given the chance.)

I personally don't think that there is anything wrong with dating a person with children, but I do believe that it takes a special type of person to date a person with children and be able to completely accept those children. I don't think of children as baggage, more of like a bonus! Unless that child is bad and disrespectful, then they are baggage! (LOL)

I think that there are some benefits of dating someone with children. I can only speak on dating a man with children, because that is what I know! I feel like a man with children is more than likely more mature, motivated and responsible because he knows that someone else's well-being depends on his actions. And let's just keep it real, when a man has kids, you know that his soldiers are marching and if everything goes smoothly in the relationship that will be one less thing that you will have to worry about when planning your future.

I’m not advocating dating men with children because it honestly may not be for you, but don’t knock a man because he comes with more than what you think that he should. You never know, he could bless you with a family starter kit! LOL


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